Happy Independence Day…it is time to be free!
Do you have skeletons that haunt your soul? Are you troubled by others opinions of you because they cannot see who you really are? Do these wounds hurt your spirit and hold you back? Keep you from being able to move forward and live your most joyful life?
Then….take back your life! That is what I said, take back your life! Powerful isn’t it? It moves you to the desire to try, right? Or maybe you are questioning how? Where do I start? How do I overcome such deep wounds that haunt my soul and bleed my spirit out? You start here. I have created this site for you to vent, scream, write your opinions and help others with your story. I hope mine will help someone with their journey.
That is simple, but still not what you want to know, I know…but it starts somewhere right? So lets start with the truth as “you” see it. You are your truth. You are your judge and your maker of life and are the one in control of how you handle it.
So don’t let others rule your world or make you doubt what you know. Start by being true to you. If you like something like it! Don’t worry about what someone else thinks you should like or if they think you are stupid for liking it…DARE TO BE YOU! Don’t be afraid. You are unique and designed as only you can be. So forget what society says you have to be and family says you will be…BE YOU!
That is what I hope to inspire here. Freedom to be you…freedom to be whatever and whoever you want to be…freedom from toxic family, friends, idiologies and people who are miserable in their own lives. People who cannot stand up for themselves so use what talents they think they possess to manipulate you into something you aren’t with well intended idiologies of their passed down heritages.
Times are different. What worked for your previous ancestors, grandparents, parents and siblings cannot work for you. You are different from them. You have the same right to live, learn and be. Just like they had those rights in their times. So DARE TO BE YOU! Screw the well meaning pretenders and haters who have to hide behind false pretences and their own made up lives, until they find a way to break out little by little to be who they are. Who are they anyway?
Are they there only on the “condition” of thier ideas of you and who you should be? Do they hide from you and your life and hide you from their little make believe world? Or do they really love you unconditionally, forgive you unconditionally and continue to inspire and move you? Or do they hide behind the fantasy world they live in sure to spit poison for the things you dare to be needing the approval of everyone in their lives to move anywhere or do anything. Do they stand alone and stand with a crowd or do they only move with the crowd? Dare to be you…stand out in the crowd and the crowd will follow you. Because you are unique and show promise of truth in your own right. Don’t be afraid…life is short and the majority of these people won’t even be there for half of our life.
Someone dear to me once told me to Divorce the toxic family I have. That is such a real and thought provoking statement. We divorce spouses who abuse us, cheat on us or just don’t make us happy…but we hang on to family that is toxic because society says that you should value your family? But if your family doesn’t value you…then why bother to beat yourself up? You can value them from a distance. Value what they brought to you that was good, the memories that were innocent and right, things you want to hold on too…you need that for your own healing…but why would you value that they want to tear you down? They are human and humans make mistakes. You can value that God gave you a brain to use and he is love and love isn’t taking constant insults and alienation from someone who doesn’t care about you or how you feel and can only think about their own needs. Sometimes you have to evaluate their actions verses their words of I love you and want you in my life…You can be sure when someone accuses you of it…it is usually because they know it well in themselves and/or they cannot take the bravery of your actions to be so authentic to your self by daring to be you and live for you. And they won’t like you calling them on it…because then they have to justify themselves and they generally can’t so the excuses come…funny how that works.
Be sure I am not saying hurt people because you should. Or go out and hate and tell them off because you can…that isn’t healing either. Try to forgive…forgive and take it till you know it isn’t going to change and they will never see you or understand you. Be sure you are ready to believe in yourself, because you may be the only one who does…but be sure of this too…God gives you others to bring in place of those you lose. You will find reinforcement with like minded people who have themselves been through what you have and in turn will be there to help you…why, because they feel your pain and know you need to heal. So they want to help. And those you love may not let you go quietly…they may expect to get a constant rise out out of you…they need to satisfy their own turmoil with in themselves. We all fall in the trap of the last word….say what you have to then let it go. Now you need to heal and your journey begins.
You are about to hear just a little of what I have gone through either through thought provoking poetry or by out right Q & A. But I intend to use this site for Self Focus…Mine, Yours and Ours….
The Journey Begins….